Friday, September 24, 2010

Vlog- Struggling

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  1. Sending huge hugs your way TJ - love the Vlog - your honesty just pours through on this one!

    I think most people think that once you lose the weight, you life just magically is perfect, and that's not the case.

    And yes, Big Mac's are good, but food doesn't solve the issues.

    HUGS!
    Biz

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  2. Tracy I love your beauty and your honesty, you are real, so many of us are like you. It's a battle everyday and as long as there are more good than bad days then we will all be ok!
    Hugs Tracy!

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  3. Ah, Babe, we all struggle. It can be a battle. You have done so amazingly well and if you have the self control to indulge in a single Big Mac, I don't think anyone would fault you! I know it that it smacks of the slippery slope (I just realized I haven't seen the inside of a McD in quite sometime)! But this is not about perfection, its about persistance and patience and be nice to yourself! You are doing well. Tell yourself that, a thousand times a day if you have to. Big hugs!

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  4. Hi, I'm Marisa and I struggle with food, too!

    I can completely understand, TJ. We'll figure this out. Sometimes it will be the easiest thing in the world and other times, it'll seem impossible like this week. We just have to ride the ride. We can do this, k? Love ya, Thelma!!!!

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  5. TJ I love you and I am sorry you are having such a hard time. As you mentioned, many of us (self so very much included) identify with the struggles you are talking about. It is hard, and you are to be ubercommended on your hard work and AMAZING progress. I am not talking only about the massive amount of weight you have lost, but also the mental progress. To not have even gone to the McD's by your house? SO commendable!!

    As for the pain - I can only identify with that a little bit but during the times when my back/sciatica issues are so bad, I absolutely want to crawl under a rock, cry and stop hurting. I know it sucks. I am so so sorry to hear that you're having such a rough time with this.

    Thank you so much for this post. We love you and are rooting for you, and hoping you feel better soon too.

    xoxo, President of the Arkansas Chapter of your Fan Club

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  6. i prefer videos where you do your hot assed ear wiggle thingie

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  7. So raw. Honest. Helpful.

    email zinging your way.

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  8. dude...my lunch today was 3 small granola bars with 2 tablespoons of butter because what i really wanted was an entire loaf of french bread with a frickin stick of butter. ahhhh progress. lol
    feel better. pain takes a tole.

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  9. I'm so sorry you are struggling right now. I don't deal with chronic pain like that. But considering what you are going through, eating a watermelon is nothing!

    Hope things get better for you!

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  10. I suffer with chronic pain as well. Sometimes I convince myself that a big mac will take the pain away (why are those so good?), but of course it won't, and I know that.

    I am very, very proud of you for not going to McDs! That is saying a lot!

    xoxo

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  11. Tj you are strong...keep it up. I know how hard this is for you.
    Keep your chin up...notice I said chin? No more chins. Love you!

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  12. TJ I just wanted to reach through the screen, give you a big hug to tell you it IS okay and I think you are amazing. Hang in there, kiddo. It's okay to feel those feelings. And the watermelon? Could have been a whole lot worse, right?

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  13. Wow, you're like a real person! :) Hahaha, it's so weird to see someone that you only know through type as a real, living and breathing person!

    Keep your chin up. If we all have to struggle with something in this world, I guess I'd rather struggle with food than with poverty, hunger and war. It sounds trite, but I really do feel lucky because my life could be a lot worse. Having a support group makes me feel lucky instead of down on myself constantly, and I hope that I can be there for you and make you feel the same way.

    By the way, you are soooo pretty! :) :) :) My thoughts are with you, TJ!

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  14. Hey there gorgeous girl! I love the vlog idea....very cool.

    I'm not sure if I've ever posted on here or not, but I check out your blog for the recipes/pics every single day...and also to see what kind of exercise you're doing in the pool due to your chronic pain. I'm really very sorry that you have to live with that....I can imagine how bad that can beat you down sometimes and affect your emotions so severely.

    You were right, you HAVE come a long way...you only have to look at your pic collage at the top of the blog to see that. You mentioned that you don't know if you'll always have to struggle with the food. I've finally conceded to the thought that I will...you might have to also. Some of us just suck ass in the luck department girl, lol. But hey...every day isn't terrible right? A lot of days are ok...and some are downright awesome. If we can just get through those rough ones, then there's always better ones to follow. Yes, I believe it will be a series of peaks and valleys with the food battle....but we've got support....we've all got each other here in Blogland that inherently understand everything that goes along with the food addiction/eating battle. You're going to be okay...you proved that on overeating on watermelon for God's sakes and not at McD's!!!! Girl...do you even understand how huge that is?? How far you've come mentally with the food???? You're going to make it girl...and on the days you don't think you will...we're here. We're listening. We fully understand. And we'll hold you up when you can't hold yourself up. You're never, ever alone. :)

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  15. You are so so brave! I often look at your blog and think how easy you make it seem to eat these creative healthy meals everyday... listening to you talk about your struggles makes me realize that when you boil it all down we all have some times when our problems weigh heavier than others.

    Thank you for the honesty!

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  16. Awe TJ, sorry you are having a hard time :( I hope you get through this tough time quickly xo

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  17. Thanks for posting this. I appreciate your honesty. It's nice to know that other people have the same struggles. I know this will get easier for you again- we all have times like this. Keep going!

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  18. loved the Video log!! I read you all the time. I feel more connected somehow, awwww now I am going to tear up!! What a spaz.... I so understand your struggles, we all live with them, watermelon ... no big girl!! Big Mac's... ah ...Big Mac's the 2 for $2 was the most EVIL promotion they EVER did, I would buy 2 on my way home and eat them before dinner!!! shame, shame, shame!!! I think McDonalds must be run by really really really morbidly obese folks, .... think Mike Myers in Fat Bastard... ok enough out of me... (((( hugs))))

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  19. It seems we all cycle together, sometimes!
    Who hasn't stood exactly there?
    You look great, btw!

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  20. Saturday morning and I just viewed your vlog. There is no way I can tell you how much I appreciate the time and emotional investment it took for you to do this and share your raw truth with us. You helped me more than I can say, and I'm going to email you separately to say a little more. Hugs and prayers to you, and I hope you feel better soon.

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  21. Hugs to you TJ! You are an amazing woman and you have come so far.

    It is hard to not fall into our old ways of coping with pain, stress and anxiety but you are doing a great job of holding strong.

    Being aware of the desire is huge! I just wrote a post about this on Friday myself.

    Stay strong, keep doing what you are doing. I hope the pain subsides for you soon.

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  22. Good morning TJ,

    I got here via Leslie and just want to say that I hope you are feeling better and stronger today. That struggling feeling is difficult. Boy, do I understand that.

    Feeling your feelings and not eating over them in a really destructive way is progress. Huge progress. I so hope to be "cured" that I will never see food as anything other than fuel, but that may never be my truth. Perhaps the best I can do is manage this affliction.

    Sending positive energy your way this Saturday morning.

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  23. Hugs kiddo! Yep, struggle happens. And it's okay. It get's easier and that's okay too. Then it gets harder again, and it's still okay.

    And never say never re thinking you'll always want a Big Mac...there are food items I used to think I'd always crave and now that I think about it, I don't! It's possible! :-)

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  24. I just want to go to you and give you a big hug! Hang in there, you have come such a long way! Dealing with chronic pain issues and temptation is very hard.......you are such an inspiration! I loved your vlog!

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  25. Your video was great. Hang in there you can do it. ((hugs))

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  26. Me too. I so appreciate your honesty and your willingness to share your struggles. I'm a WW and about 3/4 of the way to goal. It's hard, but reading your posts and hearing you speak about fighting the good fight is encouraging to me. Thank you. I too send you a hug--hoping you're feeling better and knowing that you are really making such a positive impact in your corner of cyber space.

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  27. *hugs* girlie! I think it is so fab that you posted this - when I'm struggling I just tend to stay away from blogging because I don't want to disappoint people and I know that is just silly. We are all human. I also think it is fab that while you admit you are struggling, you haven't thrown in the towel or allowed it to get any worse than eating a personal watermelon!

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  28. Hey woman,

    Thanks for sharing.

    That you live down-wind from a McDonald's breeze and don't indulge is a victory.

    Hang in there.

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  29. Hi TJ, this is the first time I've been on your blog. I was very touched by your video and want you to know I am amazed by your strength and courage. Good days follow bad ones so it's uphill from here!

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  30. Girl, I often can't curb the Big mac craving as you so bravely are able to do! So I make my own! a nice sandwich thin with a veggie burger and some fat free thousand island dressing, lettuce, fat free cheese... Not exactly the same, but does the trick for me!! :)

    Seriously, your honesty is commendable! Your meal creativity keeps me on track as I get so bored with healthy food!!! Hang in there! I have been eating worse than watermelon lately and your vlog has encouraged me to get back on track! Thanks for the encouragement even at your low points! You can do it! Keep going! It will get better!
    Hugs!

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  31. Had to come out of lurkerdom to tell you how much I loved this video. I think it is so great that you are sharing your struggles, it shows how hard this struggle is for all of us. Keep up your hard work, you are amazing!

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  32. I love seeing your beautiful face, and hearing your voice. It's almost exactly as I would imagine it.

    Life is a chronic condition isn't it? Then we die. You really are making a beautiful thing out of your patience and grace. Great job TJ. It can't be easy.

    Thanks for sharing.

    I wish that this were real time so I could give you a big hug and a serving of hummus and wasa. Or the devil food in my freezer. Either one you prefer.

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  33. I wish it didn't take me so long to watch this! I saw it last night but there wasn't a quiet time to watch it. Here's a big hug!! It's so sad that it has to be such a struggle but it is for all of us. You know this and so do we all. You are so right, the blogging community is SO strong and wonderful! I actually just wrote a post about it but probably won't post it until tomorrow night on the diet blog.

    I give props to you for resisting McD's. That is my nemesis! I can't step in one and neither can you! Good for you! Stay positive! Climb out from under that rock and blog away and know that we are reading and with you!! :-)

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  34. It is nice to view your message and hear your words and see your inflections. I've been struggling too, and while I have been honest about it, it is still kept pretty hidden.

    I wish you the best in overcoming this (and other) challenges.

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  35. Tj: Just getting caught up on reading blogs, but I have no sound on my computer so I can't listen to your vlog. But you're obviously in pain (in more ways than one).

    If you need to talk, I'm here. I'm going through quite a rough patch myself, so I have a sympathetic ear and advice (only if asked for).

    Vee at http://veegettinghealthy.blogspot.com

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  36. Sending ((hugs)) your way! Thank you so much for the Vlog! I love your blog, I'm probably on it multiple times a day!! I watched your Vlog lastnight and I guess while I was watching it my BF was watching me, he asked me if I knew you because he said said I was getting all teary eyed the more I listened. I told him although I don't know you personally, I feel like I can relate on so many levels. You are amazing for all that you have accomplished and I'm so thankful that you share it all with us out here in blogland!! I read alot of blogs but you have inspired me to start my own weightloss blog...something new for me! I have a craft blog but this will be something totally different...I need to get my butt in gear and be accountable!!

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  37. I'm a little late to comment on this but I just wanted to say that you are so awesome and real and continue to inspire me daily! Thank you for sharing your struggles as well as your success.

    *hugs*

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  38. What an incredibly brave post. Thinking good thoughts for you. Keep your reasoning strong and I hope these bad feelings slowly subside. Maybe another fun activity could take the place of food. I nice walk on a beach or just doing something fun that you normally wouldn't do.

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  39. TJ,

    I wanted to tell you how much I admire you for your honesty. We all feel the way you do sometimes. By voicing it you made me feel less alone. I hope it helped you too.

    You hace done an amazing job with you weight loss journey. You have a lot to be proud of any many more successes in the future.

    xoxo Patty

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  40. Im late because I was traveling ut had to chime in anyway.

    this is why we love you. your honesty your willingness to be real, raw share and reach out.

    If I can ever lend a hand--pleaseplease let me know.

    Miz.

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